Posted by ElaineM on July 9, 2006, at 10:45:54
In reply to therapist attachement, posted by rubenstein on July 6, 2006, at 21:39:00
Hi Rubenstein: I think attachment is good - which is seperate from thinking that it can also be risky. There is always potential for hurt. An unhealthy relationship can be dangerous. But even a wonderful one can cause pain - like when it has to end. It took me a long time to see a T, and learn to speak from the heart, and learn how to feel for, instead of fear, someone else. And I came to have a very strong attachment for her. And even though it hurt like h*ll when I had to leave her, I'm glad that it happened. Being able to care for another person made me feel like I was alive. And I think she was encouraged by my growing ability to form attachments - I was.
I know exactly what you mean though about feeling afraid of seeming too needy or demanding. For me, I'd guess it's because all the other few times I've let it be known that I need, or care about, or love someone, I've either been ignored, or reacted to violently. But it sounds like you have a good thing with your T. I think it is worth the risk of sharing that with your T. But that's just me. And it's easier said than done, right?
Good luck, EL
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