Posted by Tamar on June 21, 2006, at 18:50:11
In reply to Re: Please be civil » gardenergirl, posted by CatieCat on June 21, 2006, at 18:34:28
Hi CatieCat
> Actually, with all due respect, I wasn't being sarcastic or treating death lightly at all. Wouldn't the person who says "I think I'll threaten suicide if he tries to terminate me" be taking death lightly? Suicide is a serious thing. Maybe it's just a major gripe of mine when someone threatens it in a manipulative way. I already lost a friend that way. I hate the term being used so loosely.
Thanks for sharing about your friend. I’m so sorry. I lost a friend to suicide too. It’s awful.
> My post was not snarky at all. In fact, I encouraged the poster to talk to her therapist. I even said *feeling suicidal might even be normal. But to threaten suicide as a plan if you don't get your way is a little ridiculous if you really think about it.
I know you’re hurting. And I can hear that your post comes out of that hurt. But I wonder if you may be jumping to conclusions when you suspect the threat is being used loosely. I don’t know if you’ve ever felt suicidal yourself. I have. In fact, I regularly feel suicidal; it’s a symptom of my illness.
I haven’t yet threatened suicide, but I have threatened to cut myself. I can imagine myself threatening suicide. And it would mean I was at the end of my resources. I cope as well as I can. But my coping skills are severely depleted. To me, threatening suicide would be a sign that I simply couldn’t imagine any way of living with the pain. And however trivial that pain might seem to other people, it wouldn’t seem trivial to me.
I hope you’re not offended by my rather candid remarks. I don’t want to offend you. I just want to explain how I view threats of suicide. I think they’re entirely serious. I don’t think people threaten suicide lightly.
I hope you can understand that the threat you read about here came from a very deep and intolerable pain, and was not calculated to be manipulative.
Best wishes,
Tamar
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