Posted by Tamar on June 15, 2006, at 4:47:13
In reply to Re: Bert was there. » Tamar, posted by annierose on June 14, 2006, at 19:51:56
> I'm glad Bert came to work today. I think he very much wants to help you, he just isn't comfortable with working through these transference issues, as that isn't his theoretical orientation.
It looks that way, doesn’t it?
> Since I've had similar conversations with my T and she is pychodynamic, here is what I imagine she would say, "I know you need to know that I care, and I do care. But that hurt comes from a very long time ago. It's from a young Annie that never knew if her mom or dad were listening to her, or that she even mattered. It's as if that age state became frozen. And now with me you are slowly expressing those feelings that you couldn't with you mom, because a little girl doesn't understand why her family doesn't notice her, so she blames herself. Those feelings come from a very young girl, and for you, that's uncomfortable. I am honored that you could share that with me."
I cried when I read that. And if Bert ever showed he understood so much about me I would cry in session (which I never do). Wow. It must be incredible to hear it so directly like that.
> That's what my T says to me, although not in one chunk, spread out over the session, unfolding itself slowly.
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> Does it resonate with you at all?Oh yes. Thanks Annierose. Maybe as well as drawing him a picture I will take him a script and ask him if he can say something very like what you wrote above.
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