Re: It's because I loved my T first. - thanks!

Posted by madeline on June 14, 2006, at 6:26:51

In reply to It's because I loved my T first., posted by madeline on June 13, 2006, at 6:15:47

Thanks to everyone for sharing in my happiness right now. No matter what happens with the relationship, I know that I can now love. I never thought a human was capable of such a wonderful feeling. No matter what happened to me as a child, loving another is not out of my reach. I simply can not believe it.
I say, and have always said, don't fight the transference USE IT! Love your T, let it wash over you, open yourself to all of the hurt, the trust, the love and the healing that comes up in therapy.
Now, I admit, I think I have the world's best T. He never flinched once at my admissions of love for him. When he could, he reciprocated to the best of his ability. But he never breached the therapeutic frame and that's where the healing occurred. I could love and be totally safe from exploitation, lying and explosiveness. He was just always there.
It's taken YEARS, and I'm still not finished, but we have come light years from where I was.
I think you all can too.
Maddie

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***** :-)*** :-) *** :-) So happy for you!!!! (nm) » madeline muffled 6/13/06
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Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline Dinah 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline orchid 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. happyflower 6/13/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline Daisym 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. - thanks! madeline 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » happyflower madeline 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » Daisym madeline 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline Dinah 6/14/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline milly 6/15/06
Re: It's because I loved my T first. » madeline milly 6/15/06
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