Posted by littleone on June 7, 2006, at 21:29:07
In reply to need help (trigger), posted by rubenstein on June 7, 2006, at 19:46:54
I really like the line in Batman Begins where they say "Why do we fall down? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up."
Try not to beat yourself up too much about the SIing. It is hard to cope when T's go away. Maybe you could use it as an opportunity to think about how your coping strategies weren't strong enough this time round and to try and think of things that your T could help with before he/she leaves next time. You just need to make sure you talk to your T about your SIing and about future coping strategies.
My T and I have worked on this every time he needs to leave and I always have his hanky, he writes me letters, I sit in his waiting room while he's gone, I drop journal writings off at his office. Things like that.
As well as that, I have to work real hard at coping while he's away. I need to really make a big effort to make sure my time's filled up. I write up a list beforehand of things I can do while he's gone, like have dinner at a coffee shop, get massages during my regular T session times, go on hikes, go places where I know I can take lots of photos, plan to watch certain TV programs, plan to do certain activities at home that will keep me busy. Whatever it takes to stay busy. It's very hard to think of enough things to do. But it does help. And keep in mind that it's real hard to think of things when you're sitting there with nothing to do right now. You need to plan them in advance.
I also have a Comfort Book which I use a lot now and helps a lot.
Would you like to come to Camp Comfort with me today? I brought a little bird along today to sit with us in the garden if that's okay. There's lots of flowers out and you can feed the bird little bits of grass seeds. He sings and twitters back to us. We can watch the tadpoles and guppies in the dam and we can swing on the swings and play on the see saw a little bit. It's sunny today, but there are lots of shady spots if you get too warm.
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