Posted by orchid on June 6, 2006, at 17:40:55
In reply to Therapy tomorrow morning (TRIGGER), posted by Tamar on June 6, 2006, at 17:08:47
A part of me really cannot help but think "Oh, how much better she would be with a better T, one who could really understand and help her - she has all this gifts and her T isn't doing her justice". But, and that is a BIG but, I know it is your choice and it is not an easy one to make, and I know you like your T. Instead of all this struggling to get this relationship straight, you could use all this time and effort and money in getting better if you have a very good T.
I do not doubt your ability to convey what you feel. So it must be that your T is not understanding you at all, in spite of your repeated attempts to convey exactly what you feel. I don't know why he isn't able to do it, but apparently, he isn't able to understand you fully, even though your words are crystal clear. I mean, how difficult could it be to really hear what you are saying and change his style to work with you, instead of being distant and enforcing boundaries, and telling you you don't know anything about his life. I mean, how does that help at all? How hard is it to be understanding and empathetic and affectionate and at the same time keep the boundaries intact, and help you? It doesn't sound difficult at all to me, especially with a client like you.
I am sorry, I find it so unacceptable that he is not able to help you enough. I am just venting on your behalf.
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