Posted by ClearSkies on May 18, 2006, at 8:48:53
In reply to Re: I'm around, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2006, at 21:36:45
Dinah, I hope that this move will be the last of the enormous upheavals for you for a long, long time.
When I was young (9 years old) my family moved to another province, with a different cultural base, and the family endured a big downshift in lifestyle as my dad left the safety of a corporate environment to start his own company. Even at 9, I knew that this was a really big deal, and that so much had changed for us all that it was more like starting all over in a new place, than "just" continuing our story in another place.
My mom tried to hold herself together and not let on how upsetting the process was for her. She finally had stability in her life after having gone through being a Displaced Person after the war and moving from country to country, trying to settle in and settle down, only to be wrenched away time after time. For her to have a place where she was able to put down her roots and establish a life with family, work and friends, was a real milestone for her.
She coped with medication, and knitting (!). She made an area rug that she always referred to as her Frustration art. It's still on the floor at her bedside, a reminder of what she endured after thinking that she was done with uprooting herself and starting over in a new place.
In fact, she did it again a couple of times, to be where she is today. Divorce, death, retirement - all were launching points for moves and reinventing of her life.
I wish lots of things for you, Dinah. That you get through this period with no harm; that you can perhaps see some excitement about the move for you and your family; and that this is ultimately, the best thing you've ever done. I think that you can do all this. I wish that your indepth relationship with your therapist was easier to tease apart (and I realize that his own Katrina experience played an enormous role in this process). I hope that you're able to see this process as a new beginning for yourself, with all its opportunities.
CS
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