Posted by Karolina on May 1, 2006, at 1:39:21
In reply to Lonliness, Unrequited Love, Intimacy, etc., posted by DisposableDoll on April 30, 2006, at 9:31:10
Hi Disposable Doll.
I read your posts and can see so much of myself going through similar things/having similar thoughts. When I broke up with my boyfriend I seemed to immediately place whatever I had felt for him - and even more - onto my T. And my T was there for me to help heal all the hurt I had just experienced and that of course had made me feel better. So I would think it would only make sense that you have more intense feelings for your T right now, it's like you know that he's there for you: if things get sh*tty with friends or the family, you know your T is always still there and will listen to you when the others don't.
If you still feel distracted by your feelings for your T, maybe you could even talk to him about the situation with your ex, it could lead into a discussion about the transference; how what you felt for your ex became some of what you felt for your T. In my experience with this, I noticed I cont'd to act in the same way towards my T as I did my ex. But through my reactions to things my T did or said, he was able to point out things I had not seen while I was still in the relationship with my ex.
Also have you ever talked to him (or has he talked to you, rather) about Borderline Personality Disorder? So much of what you said in your last paragraph (feeling empty, needy, unloved, abandoned) are all very common feelings for people with BPD. Maybe talking about that would help too. Hope you feel better soon.
-Karolina-
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