Posted by Daisym on April 19, 2006, at 12:34:08
In reply to Help*************Trigger**********, posted by TherapyGirl on April 19, 2006, at 8:32:11
I'm sorry about your Uncle. Were you close? I'll say a prayer for him.
Since it doesn't seem that staying elsewhere is possible (believe me, I know about those family pressures) I suggest taking things with you that remind you of YOUR home. Take your pillow and maybe a blanket from your bed. Make the room you are in smell different -- take a spray or a candle. (smell is a powerful reminder.) Leave a light on, so that you know where you are when you wake up. If you can, place a framed picture at the bedside to remind you that you are safe - either of a friend, or your therapist, or even a picture you found in a magazine of a meadow or the moon...whatever you can look at to center yourself.
During the drive and at the funeral, can you keep something in your pocket that you can center yourself with? Falls gave me a rock that is so easy to carry and it works really well for this.
Lastly, bring a favorite soothing CD for the car or even your bedroom. Allow yourself to space out with the music.
And take your lap top if you can. We are "with you" so to speak.
Take good care of yourself.
Daisy
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