Posted by littleone on April 10, 2006, at 0:26:18
In reply to Re: How much is it appropriate to spend on therapy?, posted by special_k on April 9, 2006, at 22:44:56
I currently spend 46.9% of my wage on therapy. And I know almost everyone (if not everyone) I know would be horrified to see how much I spend on it. But then, they don't really know what life is like for me or the extent of the problems I have. So I can't let them be the judge on what is the "right" amount for me to spend.
I don't think there is a "right" amount. Only what is right for you. In my case, I have some major problems around my entire sense of self, so I would expect to have to fork out some big $'s to fix that. In fact, to be honest, I wouldn't trust that type of healing to a free community/uni/whatever it is service. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying those things *can't* help us. I just think I'm more likely to get the kind of help I need from a more qualified person with the appropriate experience.
And you're really not getting anywhere by trying to rely on those services. If you really want help, it looks like you'll have to pay for it. Instead I often see you directing really strong anger towards those services instead of taking other steps to get the help you need.
Also, re the socialising - regardless of your diagnosis, it sounds like you may have some serious self issues as well. If that's the case, then the socialising aspect is waaayyy down the track still. There's a lot more important and urgent issues to work on.
Don't forget too, that there are ways to socialise for free. You don't *have* to go drinking or out to dinner or whatever to be social. I didn't really get what you were saying about the socialising you're expected to do. But to be honest, if you can't afford it, you can't afford it. Getting the help you need is more important than the impression you put forward to people.
At least, that's the way I see things. I know you think differently re the quality of help you would get from a T. I know you've had some bad experiences, but then, were they all with the free/cheap service?
Perhaps you could try a trial with a psychologist. For x number of months. See how they compare with the people you had before and whether you can maintain the therapy $ spend level needed for that type of service.
Or ignore me. I don't know why I popped up now. I'm gonna disappear again. Bye.
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