Posted by Racer on April 7, 2006, at 19:06:09
In reply to Re: pains gone but so is everything else... » B2chica, posted by Daisym on April 4, 2006, at 19:26:39
> I read recently that one of the critical times in doing this work is the in-between time of releasing the pain (which you've done) and filling up that space with good things.
Funny you should say just that, Daisy, because I was kinda thinking about story I read by Shirley Jackson, not sure the title of the story, but it's likely in "The Lottery and Other Stories." (If not, it'll be in "Come Along With Me."") It's a story about a girl who just gets out of a mental hospital, after recovering from fear of -- everything, mostly, but she gets superstitious fears and the fear that the noise she hears is someone following her who will hurt her, etc. Anyway, she's cured, joking with the doctor as he walks her out the door. She's feeling light and free and wonderful and the sun is shining and the birds are singing and she's walking along -- when she realizes that she just don't feel quite ... right. There's something missing...
And so she CHOOSES the familiarity of fear...
But it was just what you described. That period when she had lost her fears, they were gone, she was fine, but before she had anything new to replace them with.
And B2Chica? I think what you're describing is kinda like what happens when you strain a muscle. The muscle gets tensed beyond its ability, and then it kinda goes slack? Does that make any sense, do you know what I mean so that I can go on with my analogy? {I'm not having a good day today...) Well, recently you were pretty well pushed to your emotional limits, and a bit past -- so your emotional muscles are probably feeling as though they can't manage to work right now, they need some rest to recover their elasticity.
I hope that makes snese, and I hope it helps.
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