Posted by special_k on April 5, 2006, at 8:10:47
In reply to Transference schmansference, posted by starloree on April 4, 2006, at 20:56:52
hiya. yeah i think a lot of people don't like the word 'transference' because typically it is used in a condescending way so that 'you don't really love / care about them it is *just* transference' etc.
and labelling it as 'transference' seems to undermine the very real feelings that you experience :-(
i think that is a shame...
because to me... the term isn't really about that (undermining the feelings or writing them off as illegitimate) but it is unfortunate that sometimes terms get abused... and given current abuse of the term... i can understand why someone would be put off it rather :-(
> i have already posted my expereinces on this on a borderline personality website and they all ganged up on me because i wanted to talk about it,
ah. i'm sorry to hear that. i think maybe that sometimes what it can be about... is that people view their therapists kind of like parent figures... and so when people get feelings of love (maybe even sexual feelings) then other people can't handle that (because it brings stuff up for them) and NOT because there is anything abnormal or wrong or illegitimate or unnatural or ununderstandable etc about what it is that you are experiencing...
> i have no friends so it is understandable.
yeah.
> it is not really transference (at leats not in my mind,
i guess it depends on what you mean by transference... i grant you that your feelings aren't illegitimate or unnatural etc etc. and i wouldn't undermine them. they are very real...
anyways welcome to babble...
not sure how much you want to talk about / share about this...
but maybe it would be good to just make yourself at home here and get to know peoples.
welcome to babble :-)
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