Posted by All Done on March 16, 2006, at 3:21:36
In reply to Not sure I'm quite ready to talk about this, posted by Dinah on March 15, 2006, at 11:10:27
Dinah,
I've given this some thought myself. For me, it's been all about priorities and goals. Now, of course, my son and family are my number one priority as I know yours are for you. I decided whether I'm working or not, in therapy or not, I need to be the best mother and wife I can be. I've found that a large part of that means being true to myself and finding ways to be comfortable in my own skin. That's one of my goals, if not my main goal, in therapy. I know it sounds corny, but I need to accept myself. I have always had a hard time with this and until I started my own family, I just played by everyone else's rules. Then, I realized I needed to make and follow my own rules in order to have a successful marriage and family. I need to feel confident in my abilities and I need to be able to enjoy what's happening in my life. What do they say? When mom's happy, everyone is happy. ;)
Anyway, the more work I do in therapy and the more I understand my emotional self, the better I feel about me. It's slow, but I'm getting there. I feel my emotional self is too big a part of me to ignore. I think I tried to do that for years and it got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. I want and need to understand all of me. But this is just me. Therapy definitely got more serious for me within the last year, so I think there's still a lot left to explore.
I understand wanting to stay home, especially when work doesn't make you happy. Maybe you need to ask yourself if letting go of emotional you will help you to be the kind of mom and wife you want to be? If you feel confident you will be comfortable with the outcome of doing that, it may be the best choice for you and your family.
(((Dinah)))
You'll make the right decision for all of you.
Laurie
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