Posted by pegasus on March 4, 2006, at 12:00:44
In reply to I'm so confused, posted by Voce on March 3, 2006, at 0:56:34
I wish I had something helpful to say. Your pain really touches me, and it resonates with my own. I think this is the worst thing about therapy. The potential for this kind of heartache.
I'm glad that you know that it's a bad idea to drive up there and chew him out. I don't know what's a better idea. I think it's good to think of what you'd want to say to him. And it's good that you're directing your anger toward him, where it belongs, IMHO. The hard part is figuring out what to do once you've worked out your feelings. Maybe communicating with him in some way is not out of the question?
I forget whether you've tried in the past. I think he refused all communication, right? That just sucks. I think it's totally the wrong thing for him to have done. My feelings are right with you; He should know about the pain he has caused by his approach to the situation.
But . . . here's what I'm worried about: What will be the most helpful for you? Him getting hurt is probably not actually going to solve your problems for now. And you chewing him out probably won't result in a response that will help you. Is there anything that seems like it would be helpful? Or if you're like me . . . it probably seems like there is nothing helpful except time.
peg
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