Posted by Pfinstegg on February 25, 2006, at 22:53:32
In reply to Starting marriage counseling next week, posted by gardenergirl on February 25, 2006, at 17:16:48
We did it, and benefitted a lot. Everyone's experience is sure to be different, but the most difficult part for us was about the first six months, when a number of hurtful things were said by both of us.
After that, we knew what those were, and our counsellor helped us a lot to be more co-operative, listen to one another better, and make allowances more for one another's sensitive areas, We dealt with feelings, mostly, at first- then sex mostly, later. Best of all, though, we began to express our needs in better ways- and to get them met better. We were lucky to find a very empathic, encouraging cousellor who was very fair to us both. I think any marriage can get a lot better if you find someone like that, and hang in through the tough times.PS: we're still going, but only every 3-4 weeks, and feel we are almost ready to stop.( We went for two years once a week)
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