Posted by shrinking violet on February 9, 2006, at 21:07:42
Hi everyone,
After 2 years with a Uni T, with whom I bonded with very closely, I graduated and was forced to find a new T. I chose one that my former T had recommended. I've been seeing the new T since last fall (started with her in October-ish, went to a few sessions and found it too hard then quit for a while, and recently went back). When asked by others (medical doc, etc) how I feel about her, I always find myself saying "Well, I don't hate her." My doc suggested I find a T that I can say/feel a little more about, but after the turbulent relationship with my former T (which I am somewhat trying to work out with my new T as my former T left me hurt with lots of questions) I'm not sure I necessarily *want* to feel anything for her. True, I don't think of her between sessions, I don't want anything to happen to her but I don't feel overly concerned or attached to her, and I couldn't care less about her life or knowing anything about her, and I wouldn't want her to hug me at all. All of this is the exact opposite reaction of my former T, and in a way I'm sort of glad. But, is therapy with her going to work if I can't find anything better to say about her than "I don't hate her"?
Just thought I'd put this out there and see what others thought....
Thanks,
sv
poster:shrinking violet
thread:608120
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