Posted by Dinah on February 8, 2006, at 20:22:46
In reply to Re: Is this the termination phase? » pegasus, posted by madeline on February 7, 2006, at 19:19:01
My therapist called me this afternoon to tell me that he was in town and could see me this evening. So, feeling somewhat selfish for it, I inconvenienced my husband a bit and took the appointment.
And everything was ok! I just can't keep up with what goes on. He admits that he was probably defensive, but asked me how I would respond if he started talking about termination. I reminded him that I was *supposed* to respond that way; I'm the client (who wouldn't be there if I didn't have some difficulties). Plus I am so emotionally engaged that I couldn't possibly be objective.
Anyway, he sat and listened. And while I'm not sure he understood, well no one really does. At least he tried, and he didn't take it personally.
It's so hard to explain how even if I don't need him as much, I still need to need him. And feeling like I don't need him terrifies me because of the intense need to need him.
It all came down to growth of course. And how most people just don't realize why it's such an incredibly negative thing. That what you lose is so vastly more important than what you gain. That all I want, all I've ever wanted (aside from stuff), was to feel safe and secure.
poster:Dinah
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