Posted by frida on February 2, 2006, at 12:57:42
In reply to Ever worry about T's age? (may trigger), posted by LittleGirlLost on February 2, 2006, at 9:15:11
Hi...
Oh how I understand this.
I worry soooo much about my therapist's age. She's around 60,and I truly worry. She tells me all the time that she'll be an old lady and see me...but I often think about how much time I have with her, and it scares me to lose her. i haven't told her any of this, but it is scary to think about. Sometimes I find myself thinking about how much time I have with her, and it makes me very anxious, and it makes me feel I truly don't have that much time. I worry about something happening to her.
BUt she always tells me how fragile our lives are, and that there are no guarantees ever, at any age, and that's why I should focus on what we have now, and talk to her now, and tell her things now...
she somehow manages to calm me down about it...
but I do worry. I worry so much about losing her.I totally understand, I wouldn't exactly know how to tell her this, it's a bit difficult, but i think it only shows how much you care about her.
If I ever tell her, I'd tell her through sharing a dream, or a general comment first, or I'd try to find a way to tell her that is not so direct, but that's because I'm a disaster to share these feelings. But I think the best would be to tell her, she will be touched.
It's not offensive at all, just the contrary. It just shows how scared you are of losing her.and how important she is to youI think that there are no guarantees, it's true...and when I see at my T, I feel grateful that she's healthy and she's Ok. :-)
I'm rambling here, but I wanted to tell you I understand..Frida
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