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Re: Success, I should say so! » Poet

Posted by Racer on January 16, 2006, at 19:43:29

In reply to Success, I Guess » Racer, posted by Poet on January 16, 2006, at 12:38:55

> I can easily spin success into failure, so this is hard.

I know that a big part of that is that you aren't able to think well of yourself right now, but how much of that do you think is related to being, you know, female? How much is because you've had that "be modest, never blow your own horn" message beaten into you? Just a thought. Maybe you, like some other women I know -- probably including myself -- just feel so [expletive/adjective deleted] when we start to say something good about ourselves, that we have to turn it around, as punishment for our lack of appropriate modesty?

>
> I graduated from college.
> I completed a certificate program post grad.
> I kept one diabetic cat alive for six months, the other for a year and a half, giving insulin injections and checking blood glucose levels.
> I'm good at laundry- I know how to get stains out and even hang clothes out to dry in summer so they smell fresh.
> I make good salads- lots of veggies and types of lettuce.
> I'm good at water aerobics. It's the only exercise that I've kept up for more than a few months.
>
That's a good start. I can think of a few others:

You're one good lookin' woman. (I've never seen pictures of you, but this is something I know without seeing you.)
You have a wickedly funny sense of humor.
Your email correspondence is very special -- the combination of clear vision, humor, caring, and just general warmth that comes through make you one of my very favorite correspondents. That's saying something, too.
You're ['nother expletive deleted] resiliant. That may not seem like a good thing to you right now, but it is.

There's a Sylvia comic that has two women, Sylvia and I think BethAnn, sitting in a booth at a restaurant. The other woman is saying that she has stopped being as nice as she used to be, 'the other day, and old man fell down and I didn't stop to help him up.' Sylvia responds, "Did you kick his cane into the gutter?"

Poet, you're not kicking canes into the gutter. In fact, I"d bet you're the ONLY one you're so cruel to. You and I have talked about this failure issue in emails, so I ask you: "What would you tell me if I said I was an unmitigated failure?"

(By the way, you can't tell me you'd tell me I really was... Right?)

Same as people tell me -- offer yourself some of what you offer others. There's a reason people here like you, you know. And it's not that we're idiots ;-D


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