Posted by daisym on January 14, 2006, at 22:59:17
In reply to Re: Anger continued ... » daisym, posted by annierose on January 14, 2006, at 22:02:15
I think you already know the answer to your question...yes, you need to tell her your thought map and what your feelings have been.
I have a question:
Is it just being bumped that is bothing you, or the fact that you were wrong about your assumption, hence you didn't really know where she was...or who she was with? A few months ago I had the need to move my appointment from afternoon to morning. As an afterthought I called and said, "I'll see you in the X office instead of the Y office, right?" He called and said no. He'd changed his schedule (when!?) and was in the Y office all day on Mondays now. I was surprised at how much that bothered me. I did tell him and he said he could see why -- when I was a kid it was critically important for me to know where people were and what their schedule was. I needed to know where he was just in case I needed him. Even if this knowing wasn't real. Does that make sense?
Perhaps some of this is in the disruption of your knowing -- and it makes you question your place in the hirarachy of clients and your importance to her. Sometimes it keeps boiling down to wanting to be an only child that is treasured and special.
I wish it was easier. But who wouldn't want that if they could have it?
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