Posted by 10derHeart on December 12, 2005, at 21:11:40
In reply to What I love about Babble, posted by cricket on December 12, 2005, at 12:39:11
Cricket,
That was one of the most beautiful, well-written, amazing posts I've ever seen here.
And it's obvious why that's so. Because YOU are one of the thoughtful, honest, insightful people you mentioned!
I held my breath all the way through it, honestly.
I've not had your same history with relationships, particularly with men, yet I still feel I can relate to what you wrote in many ways. Even without that background, I would have been more than devastated if either of my Ts acted out in a sexual way toward me. It's even hard for me to write about, because you sort of have to imagine it for a split second even to write the sentence I just wrote.
And I don't even want to imagine it for a split second. Not *even* with ex-T (aka T1) for whom I had/have quite powerful romantic/sexual longings still tucked away, far down inside somewhere. No, not even with him. No matter what I wrote to him about, implied I dreamed of, or confessed to feeling, I ALWAYS felt completely safe in his care and strength and wisdom and knowing what to do with all that. Responding in a physical, man-woman way would have been...{{shudder}} :-(
Anyway.....
Cricket, I hope maybe you might feel like you have at least little bits (beginnings?) of relationships with some women here at Babble. I know it's not the same as IRL, but frankly, at times, for me it's just as good or better. It's so very sad that was not possible for you in the past :-( I would be honored to be one of your Babble-friends.
Thank you for posting this. It is such a special post, as you are such a special person. ((cricket)) - 10derHeart
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