Posted by allisonross on December 9, 2005, at 15:45:25
In reply to Re: Gauging comfort levels, posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 14:13:40
> (((Tamar))), sweetie:
NO ONE could understand more than I do.
> I’m glad that people have posted so honestly about all this.
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> Nevertheless, after reading some of the responses in this thread, I’m feeling judged, criticized, misunderstood and ashamed.That is EXACTLY how I felt and what I said (I thought I was readying my OWN posting here, but it is you)
We should never be made to feel ashamed of our feelings. They are facts....not right...or wrong....just simply....facts.
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> There is *no one* in my real life who understands at all about my feelings for my therapist.i do; I could write a book on what has happened and how I felt (not to mention the poems I have written about the pain of unrequited [kind of] love.
I know because I have tried to talk about it IRL. And it is so painful most of the time... a little relief every now and then helps enormously. That’s where humour comes in.
If I couldn't have my sense of humor, I would be drooling in a corner somewhere...it is my saving grace in life.
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> I don’t expect everyone at Babble to understand… but I wish it were possible.
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> If this were trivial to me I would let it go and not bother making a big deal about it. But it’s not trivial to me.Nor me...matter of fact it is a big portion of my life (too long to go into here and explain)
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> I am trying quite hard to see things from other perspectives. I’ll keep trying. And I’m hoping that others will try to see my way of communicating my feelings as different rather than wrong.Tamar: e-mail me anytime: wacalice@aol.com; we can get deeper into the stuff; I feel you are a safe person to share this stuff with......Hugs and Love, and you are NOT alone here....Ally
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> Tamar
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poster:allisonross
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