Posted by happyflower on December 9, 2005, at 13:33:36
In reply to CSA and our children **trigger?**, posted by antigua on December 9, 2005, at 13:17:41
I haven't experieced CSA, but a lot of physical, emotional, and neglect in my childhood. I have told my kids why they can't see grandma and that she was a very mean bad mother to me and hurt me badly and that we need to stay away from her to protect them. I have always been very truthful with my kids, and they trust me. They don't know the details, but they know about the abuse. They are 9 and 10yrs old.
Plus I needed to tell them in order to protect them in case my mother showed up at my door again or if we run into her out in the public. At home we basically treat it like a tornado drill , they go down in the basement until I say it is safe to come up. I also have a panic button on my home security system. They know how to use it also. I keep the the system on all the time. In the summer, they don't play in the front yard alone.
My mom is dangerous and carries a gun, and I know it is scary for my kids, but i would rather have them a little afraid then for them to trust her and allow her to abduct them easiely. I carry pepper spray with me at all times and have some stashed around the house. You gotta be safe with all those crazy people out there.
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