Posted by alexandra_k on December 5, 2005, at 16:28:34
In reply to Re: I read **trigger**Suffer the little inner children » cricket, posted by muffled on December 5, 2005, at 11:42:23
> > First - This is about BPD. I have no official diagnosis. I don't know whether I have BPD or DID or both or neither. Since I think that diagnoses are more useful to insurance companies than to individuals, I have no desire to have a diagnosis.
> ***Yeah, I'm with you. My T is the same also, she calls them 'labels'. My T keeps giving me bpd materials.Yeah, I agree with the sentiment about dx. In my experience... When I was given a dx I would read up on it and worry about whether I had a particular symptom or not... I think it is probably more helpful to just focus on the problems you know you have rather than to worry about all this other stuff that may or may not apply... And worse still... That may come to apply as you internalise that...
> ***You can hear them? For me its just like static in my head. But not much these days. I can communicate, but not very well.But you talk to your kid though, eh?
> ***:( You not a freak. I'm REALLY struggling with the freak thing right now cuz my T. asked for the first time last week if my kid wanted to talk.Hmm. I don't know why therapists seem to think that talking to them is so very important... I would have thought... It would be more important for you to feel free to talk about her and talk about the things she says to you and the things you say back etc. To help you guys have less conflict.
And on that note... Something I found (which other people may or may not)... They tended to get pretty upset when I said 'nasty' things about them... Much like most people do, I suppose...
> very recently. I'm trying not to reject kid cuz it really hurts her, but its just so weird.:(
:-)
Yeah. Like if she rejected you or when she goes off at you it hurts you too.
> > Listening to the voices.
> > I guess I agree a bit with the article here. I do try and listen. Each voice has his or her own unique point of view. They often have something valuable to say even if some are not very articulate or gentle in their communication. Are they always right? No, no more than any individual is always right. Do I automatically do what they say? No, absolutely not. Maybe that's easier for me because it's rarely just one voice nagging away but multiple voices with different and often conflicting desires that I must negotiate.Yeah. I guess thats how I think of them too.
Muffled...
Maybe you could have a think about how you want your therapist to approach this. And then... Talk to her about that.
I know... I get very anxious indeed when t's ask / pressure me to let the others talk to them. And... I have chosen to not go down that path. But I guess that is a personal decision. And probably something that is best talked about with your t.
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