Posted by Susan47 on November 17, 2005, at 11:34:55
In reply to I should have removed the generalization » orchid, posted by orchid on November 15, 2005, at 9:37:00
Your psychiatrist, in my experience of them from this side of the bench, is likely telling the truth. My ex-T and some of the men and women I've seen in therapy are like this. They have the capability to shut down. And I've always suspected the truth of what your doctor says. I developed an attachment to my ex-T and it felt extremely unhealthy. And because of my attachment and my inability to handle it, he threw me out. In reality I know it's damaged me beyond measure and it's taken a couple of years of my life to try and recover, and I wonder if I would've been better off just being dysfunctional without submitting myself to the embarrassment and humiliation of needing a person who was unable to love me. Because I feel like I'll always look for him and I actually went halfway around the world against my will just to get away from the bad feelings and the horrible situation I was in. And the fact is that whether he cares less or not, it makes absolutely no difference to me because my life has nothing to do with his life and his has ... well you get the picture. Your psych is right. It's like cutting an operation off before the patient's been sewn up, or stapled, and having him get off the table and his guts falling out, spilling all over the place; and the patient actually has to walk on his own entrails for the rest of his life, Because He Has No Way Of Stapling or Sewing Himself Back Up. IT WAS THE DOCTOR'S JOB AND HE DIDN'T DO IT....HE CUT THE PATIENT OPEN IN THE FIRST PLACE.
If your psychiatrist is the norm and they're mostly like this, then those people are irresponsible IMO and I would stay away from a therapist or a psychiatrist like him.
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