Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2005, at 21:54:01
In reply to Re: Sliding Downward (trigger) » Dinah, posted by Poet on November 2, 2005, at 21:34:10
Please don't feel defective about the sensitivity. I think sometimes professionals, like my mother, overplay a certain aspect. I guess they hope they've found the Holy Grail, the one answer to all of our problems. And I guess that's because they care and want to help us so badly.
But I always am skeptical that anything is that easy.
I do think certain people have biological differences that predispose them to problems. I was mentioning to Clear Skies that I thought she and I had a similar biological makeup, because a lot of what she says strikes home.
But that's not all she is, or all I am. Or all you are. Those things are helpful to know only because being aware helps you live life to your best advantage. It helps me to know that if I'm going to be under stress, I should take an Immodium beforehand and have Frova on hand. But it doesn't mean I can't do things. I just have to be prepared.
If they're telling you this is your destiny, then can you ask them to help you find ways to live with it? Not to chalk everything up to it and be done with it? I had a psychiatrist tell me I'd never feel love for my son because of my biological makeup. He was wrong. There's never any biological imperatives. Just things we need to work with. But *everyone* has those. They may not be the same, but people without any biological challenges are few and far between.
My brother wasn't doomed by his learning differences. He certainly was hampered in his efforts to achieve by my parents as much as his biology. :) But once he got away from them, and in a structured environment, he greatly exceeds their expectations.
Don't let them convince you that you are destined to be forever hampered by this sensitivity, if that's what they're doing.
I found you to be funny, intelligent, and interesting. Not defective in any way.
poster:Dinah
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