Posted by allisonross on November 2, 2005, at 7:55:01
In reply to social disorders? anyone know about?, posted by Happyflower on November 2, 2005, at 6:24:26
> Hey HappyFlower (still waiting for your e-mail to me, sweetie: wacalice@aol.com)
My T on my last session told me about beta blockers for performance anxiety. He told me if I was too nervous to perform in front of people, they would help, because he uses them too. Well I am okay mostly in front of an audience.
Are you a performer? ( I have no problem in front of an audience; I am a dancer); as my t says: I am so "out there", LOL
> Well after reading a little about them, I found that they are used mostly for social disorders.
I consider myself an "expert" in disorders; lived with one for 31 years!! LOL; just ask me about verbal abuse (any kind of abuse), narcissism, and there is something called "Personality Disorder"---there are about 85 characteristics, and my ex---had all but about 3 (I have the www. for that--pretty amazing!)
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> Well a couple of sessions ago, I asked him if me not liking to dance or drink a lot at a party or wedding makes me a social retard. He did say no, because it sounds like I have fun without doing those things.Why would you think that? We are ALL different, and have our own stuff, and personalities. For instance, I LOVE to dance, party and be social. My sister is more reserved, and doesnt care if she EVER dances. Just makes her different/herself.
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> Okay, well my T's style with me seems to be he likes to "earn brownie points", then he will reveal somethingnegative or difficult about me what he thinks. I think you all remember the last one, the one where he said I was very critical of him.Can you repeat it (being new; I mised it) "brownie points" Hmmm, this is a game? T*t for tat?
LOL
> So I am wondering if he thinks I have a social disorder? I am beginning to wonder if I do. I don't like to dance, or sing out loud, and I am a little nervous around people because I don't want to make a total fool of myself.That doesn't make yo a social misfit; I am sure there are TONS of people who feel like that. Perhaps you care too much about what others think of you. Here's my therapeutic suggestion (LOL); just be yourself; to thine own self be true, etc., etc.
In social situations I am a little scared to talk because I feel like I sound stupid because I don't know what to say.
There's tons of information on this stuff. People love to talk about themselves (I should know; I am one of them, LOL), so ask someone a question: where do you work; I love your outfit/hair/tie/jewelry, etc., anything abut THEM, that gets them talking. Takes some practice, but before you know it, you will be having a conversation!
Sometimes it is hard for me to relax around people. What do you think, does this sound like social anxiety to you?
I don't know, cause I never had any, LOL!
I know I need to talk to him about this, and I plan to, but I just want to run it by you, "the experts" lol Thanks!
Hey, I am the person who stood up in front of a whole congregation and said: "Wow, I didn't know this many people would show up to help me celebrate my birthday"
Just as they were about to "hang" me, and then my name was put up on a big screen, followed by the words: "CONDUCT UNBECOMING A CHILD OF GOD" Sometimes i scare myself (my girlfriend tells me I have steel b**ls, seems silly not to type out the word, eh?!
www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com was the result of the debacle.
I was published with the Ph.D's (have to preface it by telling people, NO, it wasn't a study about ME, LOL) www.psychiatricjournal.com entitled: The Transcendent Child on Overcoming Verbal and Spiritual Abuse
So, enough about ME, what do YOU think about ME, LOL?!
I don't know if you should be labeled; perhaps you are just insecure, etc.
Okay, time to e-mail me at wacalice@aol.com, where I can tell you what I REALLY (LOL) think!
Grins, Ally (sassy) Born standin' up and talkin back!
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