Posted by allisonross on November 1, 2005, at 8:49:00
In reply to I keep thinking my therapist is inappropriate., posted by ClearSkies on November 1, 2005, at 7:22:16
> Is it me? No.
Yesterday she invited me to attend church with her.
This was unethical/inappropriate...a boundaries violation.
She started talking about sinners and how we are all sinners and that dog (Did you mean God? LOl, LOL) has a plan for us.
T's are NOT supposed to use their biases, thoughts, etc.....they are there to listen to YOU and help yu with your stuff. NOT their beliefs, etc.
I know I had this horrified look on my face. We've discussed spirituality before and I've made it clear that I'm not comfortable with organized religion, that when I visit my mum I go to church with her out of a sense of duty, and I know the tunes :-)
That right there told you she was disrespecting you by proselytizing (I think thats spelled right); that means preaching at you, etc.
> I ended up telling my therapist that it was highly unlikely that I'd be attending a church of any kind. I was amazed that she had suggested it in the first place. It felt intrusive and presumptuous of her.
Always trust your gut. It WAS "intrusive and presumptuous of her"
Am I being overly sensitive?
No, and i always am disturbed at the thought "too sensitive" we all have feelings, and they are facts....not right or wrong...just facts (on my soapbox now, LOL); we react to things however it hits us; we should NOT question our feelings...they are there to tell us something....always trust your gut; that's why we have the intutition thing.
IIs it normal for therapists to offer spiritual guidance??
Not unless you ask for it.
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> I'm going to talk to a different T this morning. I'm worried about how to terminate the one I've been seeing. Do I just stop making appointments or do I tell her that she is freaking me out?I believe (my bias, LOL) in being authentic. Simply tell her the truth. She should have known better to use her own construction, thoughts, beliefs on you. Very disrespectful....ESPECIALLY since she knew how you felt about organized religion.
(for my sordid story, which will just reinforce what you think, LOL); my site: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com (voted out of 31-year church membership, cause I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse), fought the system for 18 months. In the end (on my birthday, no less),
Was called to a meeting of deacons (16 "men") not allowed to have a woman with me and asked: 'are you still having sex with your ex'?! My name put up on a big screen, followed by the words: CONDUCT UNBECOMING A CHILD OF GOD. Long story!
So, enough about ME, what do YOU think about ME, LOL, LOL.....Wonderful to meet you here. I've also been published with the psychs! www.psychiatricjournal.com...entitled; The Transcendent Child on Overcoming Verbal and Spiritual Abuse
Look forward to getting to know you (pretty new here)
Grins, Ally
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> ClearSkies
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