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Re: Other questions, are they too nice? 10derHeart

Posted by fairywings on October 22, 2005, at 9:29:15

In reply to Re: Good session, posted by 10derHeart on October 21, 2005, at 17:11:25

> >>And Im especially glad he was kind
>
> I agree with Tamar. Kindness is everything sometimes...okay, most of the time (for me). It can overcome and ease up a lot of other, confusing stuff that might be going on at the same time.
>
Hi 10der,

Where've you been?! I hope you're okay. I won't pry if it's personal, but thanks for following my stuff, I appreciate that, you're so kind.

You're right, I didn't want to start over again either, and I'm not sure I would have, esp. considering my p-doc thinks this T is so good, I would consider myself a failure if it didn't work out again, and didn't work out with him. Thanks for thinking about me 10der.

I'm glad you've gotten to the place where you can talk openly about what's bothering you in the relationship. That must feel good not to be so afraid to bring things up, and to feel safe doing it. I was afraid of his reaction to the note, and his reaction to me feeling the way I did. I mean what if I was right, if he was defending my father, or pushing me away? I'd be horrified.

I have a question though, do you ever feel like your T is being too nice? Like you don't deserve someone to be so nice to you? My husband is really nice to me, but I feel that my T shouldn't, and want to tell him he shouldn't be so nice to me, but I don't know why I feel that way, so how could I ever explain saying it? It seems pretty odd to me.

Then also, sometimes I feel like I just want him to be mean to me, or maybe that's not it, maybe I think he should be mean to me. I've never felt that way before about anyone, T or otherwise. It's a weird feeling/thought, and I have no idea why I think/feel that way. What in the world could that mean?

fw


>
> These sound a lot like T./client growing pains, and and though they hurt and are worrisome, they are ultimately necessary and OK. That's my theory. You are doing hard stuff, FW - good for you!


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