Posted by daisym on October 20, 2005, at 11:14:56
In reply to He told me, posted by All Done on October 20, 2005, at 1:03:10
I'm sorry they didn't work tonight Laurie. He was right though -- you aren't your mom and things will sort themselves out.
Maybe you could make a list of things in two columns - the "I have control" column and the "I don't have control" -- and then try (OH SO HARD) to not obsess about the ones in the don't have control column. Then focus on the other column, even if it is only one thing, and put what ever amount of energy you can into those things. What will make a difference? For me, I have so many things in the "don't have control" column that I decided I could at least be organized and have control over finding stuff. It might be an illusion but that is OK with me.
You sound tired. Maybe you need to be pampered a little. What things do you like that make you feel taken care of? Perhaps you and hubby could sneak away for a relaxed dinner and movie, or do something with a friend.
I know how easier it is to write all these things and yet it is so much harder to actually do any of them. I hope things get better soon.
At least you know he cares, right?
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