Posted by Susan47 on October 17, 2005, at 18:59:44
In reply to Re: It will interesting!, posted by Blossom on October 16, 2005, at 13:58:28
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> You'd think the way I talk about him that there would be no question about what I should do about him, but the truth is, I just LOVE pushing his buttons. It's so much fun. How can I stop? ; )
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> Blossom
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Well, yeah. I went through that also. I hate to say it but it's true, I thought, on some level, that he deserved to get a bit upset with me or at me, and you know that WAS my way of levelling the field. Ew, gross. Sometimes I shock myself at my own human frailty, you know, that stuff we do sometimes that's just bitter, but feels necessary.
So I'm just hoping that you don't torture the guy, or yourself either. Be really, really, REALLY Careful, okay, about hurting yourself. Please don't get hurt.
Keep a bit of distance.
Never reveal too much of your personal self.
Always remember that he isn't the supreme judge of you, your character, your abilities, your attractiveness, or anything else. He's just another guy.
But he knows you better than probably any other "guy" you ever knew, other than a lover.
That makes it tough, I don't know how you could stay friends unless you felt really strongly that you both liked each other so much that that was the necessary thing to keep you together. Never anything untoward. That might actually be a great agreeing place if it ever comes up, the best thing to do would be talk about it openly, get the male/female thing opened up and spit out and stamped upon until it almost isn't an issue, or maybe keep it The Issue so that you are always aware ...
God, wouldn't that be awesome? To always be in love with someone you never have to be let down from? To be always a dream to each other; more only in the context that you are in each other's company. And you're never doing anything immoral with each other, but you're always slightly tingling.
I would love that.
Who wouldn't?
And Why on Earth, Not?
Let's see, anybody know anybody else who has actually managed to have one of those relationships? Because it takes fortitude, courage, determination and dedication. Also a lot of what we all need to live for ... Love.
You know what? I envy you your chances, Blossom, to truly and joyfully Play a little.
:-)
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