Posted by sleepygirl on October 13, 2005, at 23:15:02
In reply to Confused by therapy session, posted by fairywings on October 13, 2005, at 20:56:48
this ain't no pity party fairywings...
You've got some real serious hurt.
I'm not sure what your T's intention was. The course of our lives can be seriously negatively determined by relationships in the past that were seriously lacking or abusive.You know a child doesn't know that 'well, daddy's quite a sick man and his behavior doesn't reflect upon my own self worth' - C'mon now!! You don't "move on" - you try and get through with what you know now and grieve for your losses (IMO of course)
Knowing my mother and father were/are very ill doesn't do diddly for me emotionally. That's work - taking all of what I've got to change what I've internalized from it, and HOLY CRAP it's a lot of....well, CRAP!! I don't do it justice here!
Anyway, the point of this....please, please don't beat yourself up! I hope you can bring this up with your T and work it through - I think we can have a serious lack of patience with ourselves, and I'd hate to think that was reinforced by your T.
Take wonderful care of yourself - you deserve it.
-sleepygirl
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