Posted by alexandra_k on October 13, 2005, at 5:15:59
In reply to Re: cricket? » alexandra_k, posted by cricket on October 12, 2005, at 10:24:51
> I feel bad about not giving support. I haven't really even been able to read much here.
thats okay.
peoples involvement varies over time...
just post when you want to
always glad to hear from you :-)
> I hate to bother anyone because it seems like we are going around in the same circles.doesn't sound very nice for you to be going around the same circles...
i really wouldn't worry about posting about it though...
i think many of us go around in circles much of the time...
i'm not sure what to say about your t...
i'm not sure that i grasp the situation that you are describing very well...
i'm sorry.
things are swirling around more than a little tonight...maybe...
he was unaware that you have had horrible experiences with authority as a teenager. maybe... he was unaware that you were seeing him as an authority type figure from your teenage years.
because...
anger and rage would be fairly understandable responses to that kind of thing.
and dealing with that stuff might be really hard for the both of you and really painful.
i was thinking before... that it sounds like the biggest thing you have been working on together is trust. and so... in a way he is working on getting you to trust him. to feel safe with him. so that you can talk to him and tell him about things that you need to say that are hurtful / painful to you.
but the road to trust...
well, it takes time.
and it involves taking little risks with things that are hard.
and the more you take a little risk and he responds in a way that is accepting and helpful
the more you have faith in him
and come to trust him more.but anger...
can be a really hard thing.and sometimes...
one needs to have good trust established before opening up something that is real big.
because if one tries to open it too soon
then it can destroy trust rather than build it.and so maybe...
he is just wondering about the timing of going there?
i don't know...
i really don't know whether i'm getting it.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:565949
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