Posted by gardenergirl on October 9, 2005, at 22:23:35
In reply to Re: How therapists think or feel (trigger) » daisym, posted by alexandra_k on October 9, 2005, at 21:39:49
Daisy,
I think that maybe you keep talking about it because maybe you still feel that rotten? If it's not getting better, then it's still present, and that's what's on your plate, so to speak.As far as the literature you were reading...keep in mind it was written by therapists. I don't know how much input they got from clients. And I absolutely agree with alexandra that Linehan's view is so much more humanizing and effective. In fact, I wonder if some of her skills stuff might be helpful for you. It can seem very basic at times, and certainly you have skills. But there are useful ideas in there for distress tolerance and managing very painful emotions.
I've been thinking about you and your T. I don't know what he might be feeling. I do know that it's not your job to protect him from feeling mad, or anxious, or frustrated. If the reality of your situation is that you are still struggling, and maybe he's feeling less effective than he would like, well, that's the reality. Protecting him from those feelings isn't going to change the reality. And it's going to make both of you less able to make things better if you are not honest.
I know you know these things. And I'm glad you are still going to go in there and talk to him and check out your worries.
(((daisy)))
Try to get some sleep tonight. I'll be thinking of you.
gg
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