Posted by Annierose on October 4, 2005, at 7:37:37
In reply to Re: Answers ... more than you wanted to know ...., posted by fairywings on October 3, 2005, at 22:59:02
Hi again -
Yes, we have talked about the reasons why I quit mid-session, but I wouldn't say we resolved them. Maybe we agreed that we see it differently. But she did own up to her own part in the awkward, "I think you know something about me that you are not sharing." Which was her way of telling me she was pregnant, because I had NO clue, and just guessed and BINGO, she was. And she did admit she was probably feeling quite large, but hoped next time I could stay and talk about my anger. I let her know I have grown up a bit, am more mature than 15 years ago. She replied that she is a more experienced therapist too. And I bring up our past work all the time. She surprisingly remembers a lot from that time. She was with a group practice before, and doesn't have access to those records. Now she has her own solo practice ... much nicer too.
I guess I knew she was psychodynamic because she shared that with me the first time I saw her. I asked a lot of questions, "why do you want to see me more than once a week?" "How come I've been here so long?" I'm not sure what type of therapist your T is. Some T's are just trained for short term cognitive type of work. Psychodynamic T's believe that current struggles almost always goes back to some dsyfunction/conflict in your earlier childhood. Going more often allows one to start talking about this inner child stuff. With less life inbetween sessions, our brains will start talking about the really hard stuff, instead of what happened during the week.
My daughter did get help. It was such an intense battle to physically get her there (and she was only 9 years old at the time). But the difference 3 years later is nothing short of a miracle (and the result of continuing the hard work in therapy). She is in middle school now and is so happy and together. Getting her help at such a young age will help her well into adulthood. Both my doctor and my daughter's think that she will be a therapist one day.
My husband's company did fold into thin air, but he was quickly recruited into another firm. My father-in-law had his kidney removed, but the tumor in his brain remains. The surgery is too risky (if not impossible) and it's growing (so far) at a very slow pace. His doctor believes he will die of another cause before this tumor affects his life.
Writing all of this, it's so great to see the progress we have made as a family. Trust me, we still have issues, but compared to that terrible year, when everything was falling apart, our lives are coming together once again.
How long have you been seeing your T?
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