Posted by Tamar on September 14, 2005, at 17:16:30
In reply to Re: Tamar? » Tamar, posted by orchid on September 12, 2005, at 21:35:12
Hi Orchid! It's good to hear from you. Are you still around, or were you just online briefly?
> I hope you are feeling better soon.
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> But it might be worthwhile to try a female therapist instead of a male therapist this time.You may be right about seeing a female therapist. But oddly enough, there are many things I find it easier to discuss with men than women (face to face, anyway). I'll think about it!
> From my experience, female Ts somewhat have a better grasp of female emotions. From what you have said in the past, your Ex T didn't seem to be extremely understanding about transference.
Well, to be fair to him, I never told him about the transference. I hinted at it a few times, but I was in short term therapy and I think there's a different theoretical perspective in which transference isn't really talked about. Mind you, it might have saved me some anguish if we'd talked about it. But I was too afraid...
> So I am thinking a female T who is very qualified in understanding and helping out transference issues might be better than going to your old T back again and trying to work through another round of intense transference. It might take quite a while - even a few years, and you might have to quit in the middle again due to it being expensive as you did in the past. Female Ts are equally efficient, much less painful for us emotionally, and they have a better grasp of our emotions.
I will definitely think about it. I think I might do some marriage counselling first and then see how things are going.
I hope things are going well for you. Let us know how you're getting on!
Tamar
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