Posted by happyflower on September 11, 2005, at 11:55:36
In reply to cyber hugs are different » muffled, posted by Poet on September 11, 2005, at 11:31:26
My T once said when I asked what he would do if I started to cry, and he said what do you think I am going to do, throw you out the door?
I was never allowed to cry when I was a child, so if I feel like I am going to cry I want to know if I am safe, I don't want to be hit. So I thought my question was a valid one for my T. This was in the beginning of my therapy.
I still don't cry for him, because I don't want him to sit and stare at me if I do. I haven't even felt close to crying yet in therapy. I know he won't hold me or hug me, so what is he gonna do, stare? That would make me feel worse. He says he would try to comfort me with his words, well maybe it would work, but I don't want to go there with him. I guess I still have trust issues with him even though I feel like I do trust him a lot. Weird.
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