Posted by gardenergirl on August 29, 2005, at 2:35:43 [reposted on August 29, 2005, at 19:11:54 | original URL]
In reply to Re: does it really? » gardenergirl, posted by Gabbix2 on August 28, 2005, at 23:33:29
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> > I feel the need to say that I absolutely own my reactions to posts which upset me. Posts do not "make me" feel anything.
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> Do you think everyone should be able to resist feeling if they are hurting or terrified of something? I'm wondering where the line is..meaning, if you were caught in a fire, should you be able to choose something other than fear because It wasn't the fire that made you feel afraid?Hi Gabbi,
I'm not at all saying that owning feelings means that you can "choose" not to feel something or should resist something. Heck, I'm about as emotional as they come. What I mean by owning feelings is understanding that the feeling lies within you. If a person were completely indifferent to something, i.e. not hard or soft-wired to respond to a stimulus with an emotional reaction--they wouldn't. But we do respond with emotions. It's part of what makes us human and each of us unique.And you can darned well be sure I'd be afraid of fire. That's definitely a part of my make-up. But it's *my* fear. It's *inside* me. And in your example, it comes as a response to the threat. But I can also feel fear at the thought of fire. What *caused* that?
And because I'm certainly not perfect, I suppose saying "I absolutely" anything is not actually correct.
gg
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