Posted by gardenergirl on July 31, 2005, at 19:45:00
In reply to Re: Yeah me! Just have to post this (a bit long) » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on July 29, 2005, at 5:05:12
Thanks, Dinah.
> To what do you attribute your feeling much better? And strong enough to be able to go against your therapist's judgement and use your own, which appears to have been better? :)I'm not quite sure where this came from. I do know that twice a week therapy has made a huge difference...just like y'all said it would. :)
I think the screaming banshee incident, as well as my T's reaction to it (that it was a good thing, not appalling) was a pre-cursor. I don't know quite how, but for whatever reason, being more authentic just takes a lot less energy than maintaining defenses. It's nice to feel confident enough to learn that. It really helps that my T has accepted what's behind the defenses without question. And so far my hubby is doing okay with it, too. We are communicating more openly.
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> I know that freeing experience when you realize your parents are objectively flawed. The funny thing is that my friends, etc. had been telling me that about my Mom since high school. But I never was able to believe it until after a while in therapy.See, my mom is loved by all my friends. Most people don't know my dad. So whatever feelings I had either had no way to be corroborated, or they were actively opposed by my friends. Grrrr.
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