Posted by rabidreader on July 24, 2005, at 19:57:47
In reply to Re: Affair with mentor, trigger for T » rabidreader, posted by pinkeye on July 24, 2005, at 14:10:23
You know, pinkeye, I had not even made the obvious connection that both the teacher and my current T are authority figures. Hello, am I awake?? There is definitely a connection there. My father was completely absent from my life, and I have always found comfort, and many times attraction to authority figures. There is something so childlike in having someone who knows us so well yet is still accepting of us. There is a deep intimacy in the mentor-student relationship, at least there is in the arts, which was my major in college. My mentor knew all my "stuff"--he encouraged me to get it out, possibly as a way to get to my artistic expression.
I have always longed for a father in life, a father to the little girl who desperately needs holding, rocking, affirmation. I had a fantasy of my current T holding me in just such a way.
Shortelise, I think that no, I really didn't hope for the affair. It was just a guess at what I was thinking at the time, which was, "I wish the situation was different. I wish he was my lover or brother or friend or father or whatever. The affair with my mentor tore me apart so badly I thought I would never some together again. I would never want that in my life again.
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