Posted by rockymtnhi on July 21, 2005, at 20:04:34
In reply to Has anyone successfully terminated with a male T?, posted by pinkeye on July 21, 2005, at 17:57:52
Yes, I have successfully terminated with a male T. I too, went through the pain and hurt that other Babblers have experienced. For me, the attachment to a male figure felt so good and I wanted it to continue forever. It could not continue forever, because in part, the attachment to him helped me to grow and get better.
I struggled when therapy with him ended. I hate to admit that I even wanted to get depressed again so he would have to treat me. I was addicted and I had to treat it like that. As with any addition, I had to stop the pain on my own.
I think he cared about me. He even told me that he loved me once. He also admitted that he made some mistakes with me and that he had hurt me in some ways by failing to understand some of my needs. What is not to love about a T who can see both sides? He was never inappropriate with me.
I wrote my first T a letter a few months after I stopped seeing him. He responded. I realized that he was going to let me have the last word and because I loved him, I could not take anything else from him. I missed him but I did not yearn for him.
I have a male T now that I see more as a coach.
Therapy with a male T is NOT dangerous for women. Not this one, anyway.
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