Posted by pinkeye on July 20, 2005, at 19:18:37
In reply to Re: Get another male T immediately, posted by rabidreader on July 20, 2005, at 19:09:42
> The person they assigned me to take his place at Community Mental Health is female. What if I tell my T before he leaves that I have feelings for him, and they won't give me another male? Should I confront that?
I don't know too much about your T.. From the fact that he told you just 2 weeks before him leaving, doesn't speak highly of him. IT is incredibly hard to lose a T to whom you are attached, and if he is not sensitive to this, he shouldn't have been a T in the first place.I am not sure what will transpire if you tell him about your feelings, and how he would react etc. I don't know if he is going to allow post termiantion contact - most likely no.
Just be prepared for a very rough ride for the next several months. It is incredibly difficult to handle abrupt terminations like this. I have been there, and coupel of others here like Shrinking Violet and Susan etc have been there. It is so awfully hard.
You should atleast try to convince him to write to you maybe once in a month for the next few months. That would really help. If you have a choice, ask to see a male T with good amount of experience, and who can handle transference well and who will have little more sensitivity than leaving in 2 weeks notice.
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