Posted by Daisym on July 15, 2005, at 13:01:31
In reply to Feeling/being regressed...experiences?, posted by gardenergirl on July 15, 2005, at 11:05:03
GG,
I've written extensively about my experience with this and how mind-blowing I find it to *feel* exactly like I'm 6 or 9 or 12. My therapist encourages me to let myself talk from these ages but I think part of that is really encouraging "letting go" and not editing myself as much. I have wondered if the regression doesn't make the separation anxiety more painful.
When I started therapy, I remember saying to him that I wanted to figure out how to lower my stress levels but I didn't think "finding my inner goddess or releasing my inner child" was going to work for me. At that time he said, "I don't do much 'Inner Child' work" meaning he didn't suggest things like playing in puddles or flying kites. But I've never forgotten that he said that, as we work with these different, frozen age states.
I have to wonder if your need to do things perfectly isn't coming into play here. I know for me that feeling so young and speaking in this way, with those wants and needs, feels "wrong." If it feels the same for you, are you projecting an expectation of disapproval? I think you should bring this up and talk about it. You are most likely reading it right, I think many therapists expect a certain amount of regression but focus on the adult coping skills and choices.
All that said, it does feel really strange, doesn't it? I can so relate to the wanting to stomp your foot and wail. Being a grown up stinks.
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