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Re: Is therapy like playing with emotions?? » Susan47

Posted by alexandra_k on July 11, 2005, at 23:31:41

In reply to Re: Is therapy like playing with emotions?? » Cecilia, posted by Susan47 on July 11, 2005, at 23:15:17

I don't know that guys don't have the same capacity for emotional bonding. I mean... I really think some do. Some do. And some women don't seem to have it so it isn't as cut and dried as being a gender issue though it may well be that it is a gender tendancy.

But our therapists aren't really supposed to emotionally bond with us anyways... Well... They aren't supposed to attach to us anyways. Just supposed to facilitate our being attached to them (or not depending on the theorietical orientation) oh I dunno now I'm getting all confused.

I'm not so sure it is about another person completely understanding you it is more about you being able to feel like you are completely understood. or even incompletely understood. Just fairly much understood. But then even that isn't so very important to some theorietical orientations...

> but this man knowingly left me in great pain,

Yes :-(
Maybe... He didn't know how to help you Susan.
And he didn't want to cause you any more pain.

>and I somehow deserve it.

No you don't.

>It's been like that all my life,

So you are already primed by your past experiences to interpret your experience with your therapist in the same way.

>why would a therapist be any different?

Because he may have been able to help you learn to interpret differently. But he couldn't.


 

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