Posted by dancinbillie on June 27, 2005, at 19:41:53
In reply to Re: How do I tell my therapist . . . » dancinbillie, posted by Shortelise on June 26, 2005, at 23:40:35
> I'm going to disagree with Jazz: tell her. Tell her everything. As much as possible.
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> Who here hasn't googled their T? I did and I told him. He didn't get weird about it. He knows we all do it. Your T would have to be very inexperienced not to know this!
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> The relationship we have with our T is based on trust. We have to trust that s/he will know how to deal with any and all feelings we bring to him/her. That we experience love/lust/ whatever is all a part of the process for some of us, and it's just so very normal...
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> So, Billie, I don't think you're weird, I don't think your T will think you're weird, and I think you've got a good place to start talking about your life. If this kind of feeling comes out in the first few sessions of therapy, chances are that this is an important issue in your life, one you neeed to talk about, one you need to sort through.
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> How do you tell her? You open your mouth and say it. If you can't do that,. write it down and take it with you. If you can't do that, send it. If you can't do that, well, that's kind of a pity.
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> There, my opinion, and my opinion only! Therapy can change ouor lives, it can make the dreadful things easier to get through.
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> ((billie))
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> ShortE
>Hi ShortE, thanks for the hugs, I needed them! And thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it.
I'm continuing to waffle between telling my T everything or simply telling her about my sexual thoughts and feelings. Certainly either way will be incredibly embarrassing, but being embarrassed by confessing my feelings is better than being kicked to the curb because she is fearful of my "stalker-like" behavior (getting a background report on her) - which behavior, on the other hand, I think is well worth looking into as part of therapy. Darn it, this is just irritating! I don't usually have such problems making a decision. I'm seriously obsessing about it.
I do know my T was first licensed as a licensed professional counselor in this state in early 1998, and as a licensed clinical psychologist (with a PsyD) since mid-2002. I'm not sure how "experienced" she would be considered.
Thanks again for your opinion and the hugs - one can never get too many of them!
((ShortE))
DB
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