Posted by Dinah on June 16, 2005, at 17:51:12
In reply to Chapter 4, posted by pegasus on June 8, 2005, at 8:46:17
I have always liked this chapter. I think it did help me figure out how and why the boundaries came to be where they are. One of my favorite stories in the book comes from this chapter, where the therapist offers her sweater. And one of the saddest, where the therapist asks for a hug when he's upset, then calls the client greedy when she wants to continue them.
I generally like my therapist's boundaries. He's not really strict with some of them. I know his wife's name and child's name. I don't think that was on purpose, but once he called them by name once, I guess he figured it was silly and obvious to go back to impersonal ways of referring to them. I know bits of his life and his history. Generally the facts come up in the course of my therapy.
Right now I think the boundaries are working against me. I'm having trouble connecting, and the boundaries aren't helping any.
But in general, I like the way Lott explains them as being for our benefit as well as theirs.
But......
I guess I dislike the idea, however sensible, that my therapist needs protection from me, or that he wouldn't be able to maintain our relationship without those boundaries.
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