Posted by isla on June 14, 2005, at 16:56:52
In reply to Re: in love with therpist » isla, posted by alexandra_k on June 13, 2005, at 17:58:35
Hi everyone,
I have responded to a few of you but I guess it's easier to just do it once, rather then to send all the babblemail?
1. Yes he knows how I feel and he has not made any inappropriate overtures physically.
2. Yes he knows how angry I feel about him interrupting, and we have discussed referrals many times but he still refuses. He says I can ask my family doctor for a referral if I need to but then I will never "finish the story".
3. My reason for wanting to leave is pretty much directly because of how I feel about him which he also knows. He tells me it will happen with other doctors. Maybe he is right, I don't know, he's the only one I have seen for any length of time. I did make 3 seperate appointments with 3 different pysch. but it didn't work out at all. I told him that the main reason for me coming in is so I can spend time with him. He knows all this, but I guess I get confused because he says it's invitational for me to call him whenever I want and however many times, our appts. which should be 45 min. are usually 1.5 to 2 hrs. (which I love when we're not fighting).
4. Is it normal to fight alot?
5. I have cancelled my last to appointments to have a break because the last one was very conflict ridden, we were arguing about something so stupid, it doesn't even have to do with my depression. It was about couples who have age diffrences. Then his last remark (I think because he was mad) was about how I wanted to lose weight and haven't done anything about it. That pissed me off, but I still could not leave until he opened up his book to schedule the next appt. Both of those I cancelled and said I would call back when I need to rebook but he left a message on my answering machine with an alternative appointment (the next day!) To which I had to call back and say no.
6. I have read many things about boundaries and he seems to be pretty much above board so maybe it's just me being a complete weirdo about stuff. Sorry guys, I'm just obsessed with the guy and I just want to get over it. In his defence I should say that he really has helped me alot, through many painful things and I feel like I need him to help me be normal. I can call him anytime, I can reschedule at anytime. He lets me come in for evening appts. so I don't miss work. If I miss an appt. and I don't tell him I just have to buy him a coffee. All these things keep me there.Thank you to all of you who responded. For some of you I may have just been babbling on and on. I just miss him and am stressed. It's nice to have someone you can say anything to . I guess I'm just afraid because he has the power to hurt me so much.
All the best to all of you.
poster:isla
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