Posted by shrinking violet on May 27, 2005, at 14:36:09
In reply to Re: My T has amazed me and my husband » happyflower, posted by Tamar on May 27, 2005, at 14:28:53
To me, the intense pain and loss and confusion I'm feeling now hasn't been worth it at all. The only thing I've gotten out of therapy (my relationship with my T) is now gone, and I'm left questioning whether it was ever real, how she can just cut me off and act like I don't exist and hurt me this much if she really did care. And I'm much worse emotionally than when I started with her. Now, maybe that's "good" in a certain way, but it isn't good being left like this alone, and having to have terminated with the one person who demolished my insides but couldn't be there to finish the job.
If you're certain your T can be there for the long run, can see you through to the end of therapy and termination with him, then maybe. Otherwise, I'd say be careful.
But my case is probably a unique one, and my opinion is colored by distrust and pain right now. So maybe I'm not the most objective one to be listening to....
Just think about it, and talk to your T about it too, about it ALL, all of your fears and doubts and questionings. Something else I wish I had done....
sv
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