Posted by Daisym on May 24, 2005, at 18:23:14
In reply to cognitive psychology?help me please, posted by happyflower on May 24, 2005, at 13:42:54
I'm not sure that your therapist is pure CBT if he is talking about "your" relationship. He doesn't sound analytic with a lot of self disclosure however. Most therapists these days are sort of eclectic in their approach anyway.
Your question: "what is he doing to my brain?" (sorry, paraphrasing) made me laugh. I used to ask that ALL the time when I started all of this. Ultimately I figured out that while there are technics and approaches, our responses to therapy come from inside us. There are no "tricks" that call out certain feelings. It is an unfolding and the things that need to be worked on usually rise to the top. (Usually -- some of us are really good at throwing out red herrings! :)
I think is great that you had such an honest conversation and now you can look at your behavior with others. That is exactly what therapy is supposed to do, provide you with a micro-world in which to build awareness of yourself. I wouldn't worry about transference or anything else. Just be honest with him and yourself as you go through this. Everything else usually takes care of itself.
Not to say it isn't a scary, mind-blowing ride. And this post is definately a "do as I say, not as I do" post. I'm glad you've got a good therapist to help you.
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