Posted by 10derHeart on May 11, 2005, at 22:32:15
In reply to Re: Combination of male and female Ts » pinkeye, posted by daisym on May 11, 2005, at 19:32:04
>>I never connect with women like this. Mother issues I guess.
I feel exactly the same, Daisy. Not because of mother issues, but the same, nevertheless. Both my T's have been male and more than good with emotions. In fact, ex-T. is much better than he thinks he is, as I've tried to tell him a few times. He's very aware he's a "guy," and perhaps more comfortable with all things cognitive, and has let slip in what I thought was a pretty humble admission, that he's no expert on understanding emotions, even after 16 years.
But I know. I never felt so safe or understood and taken care of in my life than when sitting quietly in a room with him. That's a deeply emotional experience.
My T. now, well, we're still working on it, but if you guys recall my post about "little 10der" - there's no doubt he's capable and sensitive.
And I did work for a while with 2 different female T's. Neither of which I could really make an emotional bond with, but who did help me in other ways.
Funny - ex-T could switch from reinforcing some pure CBT one minute, to emotional holding the next. I didn't realize it as much when it was happening as I do in retrospect. Just a very special guy in exactly the right profession, IMO.
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